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• KRISTIN NEFF - SELF-COMPASSION

• HARVARD LONGEVITY STUDY - WHAT LEADS TO HAPPY LIVES?

• ATTACHMENT THEORY - UNDERSTANDING THE ESSENTIAL BOND

• KIMBERLÉ CRENSHAW- THE URGENCY OF INTERSECTIONALITY

• PAT OGDEN - HOW TRAUMA AFFECTS BODY AND MIND

• JANINA FISHER - WHAT IS STRUCTURAL DISSOCIATION?

• EMDR INTERNATIONAL ASSOCIATION - WHAT IS EMDR?

• DR. NACHO JARERO - EMDR-BASED SELF-CARE FOR FIRST RESPONDERS

• INTERNATIONAL ODC FOUNDATION - WHY ERP?

• JAAK PANKSEPP - UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONS WITH AFFECTIVE NEUROSCIENCE

• ANTONIO DAMASIO - UNDERSTANDING CONSCIOUSNESS

• SUE JOHNSON - HOLD ME TIGHT (BOOK + COUPLES WORKSHOP)

• STAN TATKIN - WHAT IS RELATIONAL SAFETY?

• SUE JOHNSON - WHAT IS EFT?

• JOHN AND JULIE GOTTMAN - GOTTMAN METHOD

• NADINE BURKE HARRIS - HOW CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AFFECTS HEALTH

• PETER LEVINE - EXERCISE FOR REDUCING DESPAIR

• EMILY NAGOSKI - KEYS TO SEXUAL WELLBEING

• ESTHER PEREL - RETHINKING INFIDELITY

• JIM COAN - NEUROSCIENCE OF BONDING

• HARRIET LERNER - HOW TO MASTER THE ART OF APOLOGY

• IBRAM X. KENDI - HOW TO BE ANTI-RACIST

• DAN SIEGEL - MINDFULNESS AND NEURAL INTEGRATION

kristin neff - self-compassion

“In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group.”

harvard longevity study - What leads to happy lives?

"What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life." 

Attachment theory - understanding the essential bond

"In 1958, psychologist John Bowlby pioneered "attachment theory," the idea that the early bond between parent and child is critical to a child's emotional development. Since then, scientists have discovered that insecure attachment during formative years can significantly stress both the developing brain and body, resulting in long-term psychological and physical ailments."

Kimberlé Crenshaw- The urgency of intersectionality

“Now more than ever, it's important to look boldly at the reality of race and gender bias -- and understand how the two can combine to create even more harm. Kimberlé Crenshaw uses the term "intersectionality" to describe this phenomenon; as she says, if you're standing in the path of multiple forms of exclusion, you're likely to get hit by both.”

Pat ogden - How trauma affects body and mind

“Dr. Ogden talks about how trauma affects the body and the mind.”

Janina fisher - what is structural dissociation?

“In this presentation, Janina Fisher, Ph.D., explores the case of “D” who, despite adulthood successes, endured the long-term impacts of multiple childhood traumas. The focus is on the theory of structural dissociation: the development of distinct “parts” that assist in coping with the aftermath of trauma, but which can cause their own problems. Here are the most important highlights:

• The theory of structural dissociation dictates that trauma causes the physical division of the brain to also become psychological.

• Chronic trauma leads to the development of various defensive subparts, each driven by distinct responses.

• Each defensive part adopts a unique strategy, ranging from avoidance and submission to fight-or-flight behaviors.”

EMDR International Association - What is EMDR?

“Learn about how EMDR therapy works, what it is like, and how widely it is recognized. EMDR therapists discuss how EMDR therapy works and the feedback they receive from clients.”

Dr. Nacho jarero - emdr-based self-care for first responders

“Learn how to use your own hands and body to regulate your nervous system after being exposed to vicarious trauma in your work or personal life. IMPORTANT NOTE: THIS SELF-CARE METHOD IS NOT EMDR THERAPY OR A SUBSTITUTE OF EMDR THERAPY.”

international odc foundation - Why erp?

“Jonathan Grayson, PhD, discusses that there is treatment available for OCD. Both the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association both agree that ERP is the best treatment for OCD. If you are doing CBT, it's best to make sure that it's specifically ERP. Presented in partnership with Anxiety and Depression Association of American (ADAA) and the International OCD Foundation (IOCDF). For more resources, please visit ADAA.org and IOCDF.org.”

Jaak Panksepp - Understanding Emotions with Affective Neuroscience 

Given an inherent subjective nature, emotions have long been a nearly impenetrable topic for scientific research. Affective neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp explains a modern approach to emotions, and how taking seriously the emotions of other animals might soon improve the lives of millions.

Antonio damasio - understanding consciousness

"Every morning we wake up and regain consciousness -- that is a marvelous fact -- but what exactly is it that we regain? Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio uses this simple question to give us a glimpse into how our brains create our sense of self."

Sue Johnson - Hold Me tight (book + couples workshop)

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson Ed.D. Now available in trade paperback For more information on this book visit: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/sue-johnson-edd/hold-me-tight/9780316113007/

Stan Tatkin - what is relational safety? 

"Relationships are hard. But what if it's not you or them or sex, money or even who picks up the socks. What if there is a far more primitive reason? In this talk, relationship expert Stan Tatkin explores why we fight from the perspective of neuroscience – and how to give your relationship a fighting chance. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships."

Sue johnson - what is eft?

"Dr. Sue Johnson provides a brief summary of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This leading edge, empirically validated form of therapy which is taught all over the world. EFT is based on the last 50 yrs of scientific research on bonding: bonding between mother and child and romantic bonds between partners."

John and Julie Gottman - gottman method

"Can conflict actually bring you and your partner closer? It depends on how you fight, say Julie and John Gottman, the world’s leading relationship scientists. They share why the way couples fight can predict the future of their relationships — and show how anybody can transform conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection and understanding."

nadine burke harris - how childhood trauma affects health

"Childhood trauma isn't something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain."

peter levine - exercise for reducing despair

Somatic therapist and trauma expert, Peter Levine, presents an exercise to help with despair.

Emily Nagoski - keys to sexual wellbeing 

"Author of the NY Times bestselling book, 'Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life,' Dr. Emily Nagoski presents the research behind two keys to sexual well-being: confidence and joy."

Esther Perel - rethinking infidelity

"Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected: an expression of longing and loss."

Jim coan - neuroscience of bonding

"Dr. James Coan is Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Director of the Virginia Affective Neuroscience Laboratory at the University of Virginia. Dr. Coan's work emphasizes the neuroscience of emotion and social relationships."

harriet lerner - how to master the art of apology 

"Harriet Lerner is a clinical psychologist and New York Times Best Selling author who has turned her attention to the subject of apology. Harriet's talk explores why some people may never get the apology they deserve. Harriet will also offer a 6 sentence guide to reaching the one who hurt you, and to making your own healing apology."

ibram x. kendi - how to be anti-racist 

"Racism isn’t just about hatefulness or ignorance. It is also a structural phenomenon. Ibram Kendi, author of the new book "How to Be an Antiracist," argues that neutrality is not an option in the racism struggle—people must take active measures if they wish to end discrimination. Kendi sits down with Hari Sreenivasan to discuss how his personal experiences have shaped how he sees prejudice."

dan siegel - mindfulness and neural integration

“Exploring Relationships and Reflection in the Cultivation of Well-Being. Daniel Siegel, MD, is Clinical Professor of psychiatry at UCLA, Co-Director of Mindful Awareness Research Center, Executive Director of Mindsight Institute, author, and recipient of numerous awards and honorary fellowships.”

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