VIDEOS

INSPIRATION + RESEARCH + THERAPY

kristin neff - self-compassion

“In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group.”

harvard longevity study - What leads to happy lives?

"What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life." 

Attachment theory - understanding the essential bond

"In 1958, psychologist John Bowlby pioneered "attachment theory," the idea that the early bond between parent and child is critical to a child's emotional development. Since then, scientists have discovered that insecure attachment during formative years can significantly stress both the developing brain and body, resulting in long-term psychological and physical ailments."

Kimberlé Crenshaw- The urgency of intersectionality

“Now more than ever, it's important to look boldly at the reality of race and gender bias -- and understand how the two can combine to create even more harm. Kimberlé Crenshaw uses the term "intersectionality" to describe this phenomenon; as she says, if you're standing in the path of multiple forms of exclusion, you're likely to get hit by both.”

Pat ogden - How trauma affects body and mind

“Dr. Ogden talks about how trauma affects the body and the mind.”

Jaak Panksepp - Understanding Emotions with Affective Neuroscience 

Given an inherent subjective nature, emotions have long been a nearly impenetrable topic for scientific research. Affective neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp explains a modern approach to emotions, and how taking seriously the emotions of other animals might soon improve the lives of millions.

Antonio damasio - understanding consciousness

"Every morning we wake up and regain consciousness -- that is a marvelous fact -- but what exactly is it that we regain? Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio uses this simple question to give us a glimpse into how our brains create our sense of self."

Brené Brown - vulnerability as strength 

"Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity." 

Sue Johnson - Hold Me tight (book + couples workshop)

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson Ed.D. Now available in trade paperback For more information on this book visit: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/sue-johnson-edd/hold-me-tight/9780316113007/

Stan Tatkin - what is relational safety? 

"Relationships are hard. But what if it's not you or them or sex, money or even who picks up the socks. What if there is a far more primitive reason? In this talk, relationship expert Stan Tatkin explores why we fight from the perspective of neuroscience – and how to give your relationship a fighting chance. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships."

Sue johnson - what is eft?

"Dr. Sue Johnson provides a brief summary of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This leading edge, empirically validated form of therapy which is taught all over the world. EFT is based on the last 50 yrs of scientific research on bonding: bonding between mother and child and romantic bonds between partners."

nadine burke harris - how childhood trauma affects health

"Childhood trauma isn't something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain."

Emily Nagoski - keys to sexual wellbeing 

"Author of the NY Times bestselling book, 'Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life,' Dr. Emily Nagoski presents the research behind two keys to sexual well-being: confidence and joy."

Helen Fisher - the brain in love

“Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love -- and people who had just been dumped.”

tiq milan and kim katrin milan - queer love & marriage

"Love is a tool for revolutionary change and a path toward inclusivity and understanding for the LGBTQ+ community. Married activists Tiq and Kim Katrin Milan have imagined their marriage--as a transgender man and cis woman--a model of possibility for people of every kind."

Esther Perel - rethinking infidelity

"Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected: an expression of longing and loss."

seema anand - the art of seduction 

"The ancient arts of Courtesanery and Seduction were once treated as high philosophy, with divine and academic associations. Dr. Seema Anand explores how these narratives have been lost and in the evolution of their vocabulary, the implications have changed."

maureen mcgrath - the sexless marriage

“Love? Marriage? Sex? Can a married couple have all three? Perhaps it's unrealistic since so many marriages end in divorce today. Why is that? One reason might be that a reported 20% of all marriages are sexless and that number is rising. Why have we lost the lust in our marriages?”

Jim coan - neuroscience of bonding

"Dr. James Coan is Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Director of the Virginia Affective Neuroscience Laboratory at the University of Virginia. Dr. Coan's work emphasizes the neuroscience of emotion and social relationships."

harriet lerner - how to master the art of apology 

"Harriet Lerner is a clinical psychologist and New York Times Best Selling author who has turned her attention to the subject of apology. Harriet's talk explores why some people may never get the apology they deserve. Harriet will also offer a 6 sentence guide to reaching the one who hurt you, and to making your own healing apology."

dan siegel - mindfulness and neural integration

“Exploring Relationships and Reflection in the Cultivation of Well-Being. Daniel Siegel, MD, is Clinical Professor of psychiatry at UCLA, Co-Director of Mindful Awareness Research Center, Executive Director of Mindsight Institute, author, and recipient of numerous awards and honorary fellowships.”

elena heriedeckerhoff - Highly sensitive people (HSP’s)

“Elena is a mentor for highly sensitive and empathic entrepreneurs. She explains why we need to change the prevalent cultural narrative around highly sensitive people. Elena Herdieckerhoff, Founder & CEO of Entreprincess, is a mentor for highly sensitive and empathic entrepreneurs.”

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