The most functional way to regulate difficult emotions in love relationships is to share them.
— Sue Johnson

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counseling mission

I. To hold hope and co-create safe, respectful spaces where clients can heal, grow, and bond by experiencing emotions together in new ways.

II. To strive to reduce and eliminate barriers limiting and preventing affordable access to cutting-edge, person-first care for all relationships.


Counseling process

Every relationship deserves an approach that's uniquely tailored to partners' needs, longings, and goals. While Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is not appropriate for every couple, it's an evidence-based approach I love, trust, and use with many relationships who work with me. You can learn more about EFT under RESOURCES

If you’re familiar with Gottman Method and hoping to experience Gottman Assessment, that’s also a service you can request! I also offer 2-day Gottman Intensives. I integrate Gottman Method Couples Therapy into my work, in addition to Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Imago Therapy.

You can request a complimentary face-to-face consultation (30min.) if you are a new client so you can bop into the office to address any questions or concerns prior to a first appointment. Most new couples like to go ahead and schedule a first session that’s 1.5 hours so we can use the first 30 minutes to co-decide if we might be a good fit for counseling work. If it feels like a match, we sign paperwork and begin the first hour of the intake and assessment.

After the initial appointment, counseling sessions for partners as well as individuals are generally between 1 and 2 hours. Typically, once a distressed relationship has de-escalated their conflict, weekly session goals can be achieved in 1 hour. In relationships with low conflict, or just hoping for a premarital check-in, goals can be achieved in weekly hour-long sessions, and for some, 1 hour every 2 weeks.

During the assessment process, we'll collaboratively co-determine some healthy relational goals. You'll recognize that our counseling work together is complete when your goals have been achieved.  

 
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Relationship support that's customized for people seeking loving connection, reparative reconnection, or peaceful disconnection.  


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CONNECTION

-"We're already really pretty happy; we'd like to find some new ways to deepen our bond and grow together."
-"We're thinking about moving in together/getting married and want to make sure we're creating a solid foundation together."
-"We're not 100% about monogamy and want talk about opening our relationship."


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RECONNECTION

-"I cheated on my partner and I want to do whatever it takes to keep our family together and repair trust between us."
-"We broke up and got back together and it's been really tough."
-"I just don't know if I can ever trust my partner again after their affair(s). I don't know what this means for our relationship."
-"We love each other, we just long for the playfulness and intimacy we experienced at the start of our relationship."
-"We feel lost from each other and I'm not sure if I even know how to reach out anymore."


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DISCONNECTION

-"We're talking about a trial separation."
-"We would prefer to never see each other again, but we have kids together. We want the best for our children, so we need to figure out this co-parenting thing."
-"My partner dropped the D-word, but I'm not sure if I think we could pull through or not. We need help deciding what to do."
-"I need help creating healthier boundaries. I can't decide if I want to cut someone important out of my life or not."